Was There a Crazymaker in Your Childhood?
As a survivor of chronic childhood trauma you grew up justifying the behavior of the crazymakers in your home — to yourself — in order to cope mentally and emotionally. That ongoing survival technique...
Category: Relationships
The Unspeakable Reason Love Hurts
Our romantic relationships, as childhood trauma survivors, often put us in a steady state of confusion. For most of us, the intricacies of deep emotional intimacy is somewhat like watching a foreign film without...
Vulnerability Can Heal Your Inner Child
If honesty is the best policy, why do so many of us who experienced childhood trauma (especially chronic childhood trauma) quake at the very thought of speaking our true feelings, needs and desires out...
The Secret To Honoring Yourself In Every Relationship
Boundaries are the flak jackets of relationships. Once mastered, boundaries ensure you don’t get used, manipulated, punished or guilt tripped by other people. For those unfamiliar with the machinations of boundaries, their newly born...
Why People Pleasing is Such a Dangerous Endeavor
People pleasing is a dangerous endeavor. The more vigorously it is pursued the more our True Self gets effaced, until all that, seemingly, remains is a puppet whose strings are constantly being pulled by...
Emotions and the Middle Way
If you are wrestling with post childhood trauma symptoms in adulthood, right now you don’t even know how good your relationships have the potential to be. Most likely, you currently cannot accurately evaluate the...
Surviving Holidays With a Highly Dysfunctional Family
Holidays are so explosive for highly dysfunctional families because everyone within earshot has a hypervigilant limbic system and if anything can possibly be taken the wrong way – it will be. Rarely does anyone...
