When Love Hurts-Traumatic Bonding with a Pathological Partner

When love hurts it is possible that you are entangled with a pathological partner. A narcissist or sociopath or psychopath, all of which are masters of manipulation. They take you apart piece by tiny piece. Their disregard for your feelings—their, “I can take you or leave you attitude,” they are always right and you are wrong in so many ways message leads to enormous self-doubt. It’s not you- it is them putting off the same energy your parent/s did. It is familiar so you gravitate right into their sphere of influence.

We become addicted to them as we reenact the scenario of relentlessly and hopelessly seeking their (unattainable) love and acceptance, which mirrors the dynamic we experienced with our parent/s. You see, their brains are wired differently. Sociopaths and psychopaths (both include narcissism) are incapable of feeling love. The whole relationship is a cat and mouse game to them. Guess who the mouse is.

Getting free is not at all like a ‘normal’ break-up. It’s an addiction that you must extricate your shredded self from. Recovery requires exquisite self-care and a commitment to rediscovering your strengths, your desires, your Self.

       There is a way out. First you need to admit this is what is going on. Read on . . .
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