The Forgiveness Myth
When someone attempts to force forgiveness onto a person who has suffered deeply at the hands of another, they are audaciously assuming the role of a god. The only person You have any obligation...
Tagged: childhood trauma
Chasing the Rescue Fantasy
As childhood trauma survivors, our formative years were spent in an unstable and unpredictable environment where we adopted a multitude of self-preservation techniques in order to survive. But those same techniques keep steering us...
Who Makes You Feel Less Than?
Personal Boundary #3 I will not associate with people who treat me or speak to me in a way that makes me feel diminished Are you still associating with people who say and do...
Loving Your Wounded Inner Child
One of the most debilitating burdens of our dysfunctional upbringing is the effect it continues to have on our level of clarity. Do we choose what’s behind door number one, two or three? Our...
Are You Last on Your List–Since Childhood?
When it comes to me discussing relationships, it will always come back to loving yourself. For survivors of chronic childhood trauma, that is our Mt. Everest. We reach the highest pinnacle of healing and...
Was There a Crazymaker in Your Childhood?
As a survivor of chronic childhood trauma you grew up justifying the behavior of the crazymakers in your home — to yourself — in order to cope mentally and emotionally. That ongoing survival technique...
Immovable Boundaries-Gatekeepers to Your Mental and Emotional Well-Being
Immovable boundaries are the Gatekeepers to your mental and emotional well-being. Today you’re going to find out just how that works. Life is going to get a whole lot better for you—starting right now....
Childhood Trauma Survivors Ask, “Why Me?”
Millions of childhood trauma survivors are asking the same question, “Why me?” This one question alone can drive you mad or make you so bitter that any joy is obliterated by the long shadow...
The Unspeakable Reason Love Hurts
Our romantic relationships, as childhood trauma survivors, often put us in a steady state of confusion. For most of us, the intricacies of deep emotional intimacy is somewhat like watching a foreign film without...
Seven Ways To Like Yourself More
In recovering from childhood trauma your overarching goal is to love yourself more each day. Show yourself that love by the things you do for yourself, by the way you nurture and care for...
